How to develop your child’s self-esteem

Many things are essential to a child’s development, but nothing is more important to him than forming a healthy self-image. In this sense, the role of parents becomes vital because trust, respect, esteem towards one’s own person is formed early in childhood.

Pay attention to the messages you send!

Children are sensitive to what their parents say. It is good to reward the child not only for results, but also for effort. For example, if he participates in the marathon and is not among the first, praise the effort. Instead of saying, “Next time you will work harder and run better,” say “We are proud of you for participating.”

Help him know him better!

Sometimes skills don’t allow children to record performance in a particular area. Help them overcome disappointments and support them in the process of self-awareness – to find out what is good and what is not. Involve them in constructive, knowledgeable, cooperative, volunteer activities. Use warmth and humor to help them learn about what makes them unique.

Be a positive model!

If you are overly harsh with yourself as a parent, pessimistic or unrealistic about your own abilities or limitations, your children may copy you. Feed your own self-esteem and they will have a role model to follow!

Identify and redirect inappropriate beliefs!

It is important for parents to identify children’s irrational beliefs about themselves, whether they are about physical image, skills or school competences. Supporting your children to set appropriate and realistic standards in assessing their abilities, will help them to have a healthy self-concept.

Be spontaneous and affectionate with the child!

Love your child the way he is. Your love will help him form a positive self-image. hug him and tell him that you appreciate his efforts, that you are proud of him when you see that he strives to learn, to make progress. Praise your child often and honestly, without exaggerating.

Give them objective feedback in a positive manner!

You can say, “I notice that you are very angry with your brother, but it was nice of you that, this time, you spoke without yelling or hitting him.” Recognition of the child’s emotions, verbal rewards of the choice made, encourages the child to make the right choice next time.

Create a safe family environment!

Children who don’t feel safe or feel abused are at risk of low self-esteem. A child who grows up in an environment exposed to fights and violence between parents becomes helpless and depressed.

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